Monday, September 11, 2006

Getting Ready for the Workshop

Well, the first deadline for getting in to the workshop is now past.  It's no longer possible to buy a book and get in for free, although those who have already purchased books can still register.  So far, I've received registrations from the owners of books numbered 7, 23, 27, 40, 45, 56, 67, and 69.  I'm kind of assuming that the persons who recently purchased books 66, 68, and 70 are also planning to attend, but I haven't received their faxes yet. Even if you haven't received your book yet, please just go ahead and send in the fax anyway, don't worry about the serial number, but please do fill in the part about what are the most pressing concerns you'd like me to cover during the call.

The second deadline is now less than 24 hours away.  Once I've reserved the phone lines for the conference, it will cost you $299 to get in.  So please don't delay any further.  When I reserve the lines, everyone who's signed up at that point will receive an invitation email with the phone number, PIN code, and time information.  A day or two later, I'll be sending out PDF's of the workshop agenda and handouts.

In the meantime, there are a couple of things I'd like for participants to prepare for ahead of time.  The technique I'll be teaching for banishing unwanted feelings is easiest to initially practice and test using a food dislike.  For example, if the sight of cooked beets makes you wrinkle your face in disgust, then that's a terrific way for you to verify whether you've done the technique correctly.  I suggest that you have some of the offending food on hand at the time of the workshop.  Being able to "zap" your dislike of the food will not only provide a powerful demonstration of the technique's effectiveness, but it will also be a way for you to get immediate feedback whether you're "doing it right".  And the food will make it easy to provoke the feeling, too.

Of course, we won't stop with food dislikes.  The next thing that I'd like you to prepare is a list of the top three "feelings in a situation" that you can't control and would like to get rid of.  For example, if there's a person who really gets on your nerves or does things just to annoy or guilt-trip you, and you'd like to be able to just tune that out.  Or maybe you are frustrated at yourself for never following through on your goals.  Or perhaps you panic at the thought of talking to the opposite sex.

For purposes of practice during the workshop, it's going to be best if you pick something that just thinking about it produces a strong feeling, since we're not going to be able to get the person who gets on your nerves (or whom you're attracted to, or whatever) to come to the workshop and produce the feeling.  But, we do need something for you to practice on.

You won't need to share any of this information with me or the group, by the way. All I will be asking anybody on the call is about what physical feelings you have, such as whether you feel the feeling in your chest, your throat, your gut, arms, do your hands clench, etc.  It isn't even necessary that you give your feelings a name.  You just have to be able to get yourself feeling that way when it's time to do the work on them.

By the way, I'm actually going to go a little bit beyond the topic of banishing unwanted feelings, into the subject of acceptance, especially self-acceptance.  Accepting things as they are -- including how you are -- is a critical quality-of-life issue.  I didn't even realize how critical an issue it was until I did my own despair-ectomy.

But when we have strong, automatic feelings that we can't get rid of, we get stuck in resistance and denial.  Fighting your feelings keeps you focused on the things that you don't want, instead of the things you do.  But when you can let go of the feelings and accept things as they are, then you can actually move on with your life.

So, you won't just be learning about getting rid of the feelings that block you from living your dreams.  You'll also be learning how to accept yourself, and even like yourself.  Not because you're perfect, but because you're imperfect.

But I'm probably giving a bit too much away!  And not a lot of this will make much sense to you until you experience it, anyway, although I've been writing rather a lot about it in the last month.

So, I'll go ahread and sign off for now.  I'm really looking forward to the workshop, and to speaking with all of you.