There is a conventional wisdom, a common-sense view of the world and our place in it. And this view is embedded into our language, our religions, and our every day perception of ourselves:We see ourselves as independent beings, possessing free will...
Mostly, when people come to me with persistent personal problems, they think this is a bad thing. Like the man I spoke with this week who felt like “life was over at 50”, or the woman who experienced fear and anxiety every time she thought about...
For almost as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted to be an organized person. A successful person. An attractive, charming, intelligent, friendly… well, you get the idea.But for an equally long time, I’ve felt frustrated at my seeming inability to...
The week my PC died, I lost hundreds of programs and years of tweaking.The week my PC died, I spent hour after hour, night and day, working to recover it. I suffered endless setbacks, as each minor mistake cost me hours of rework… and I’m still...
Last month, I celebrated having more “good” days than “bad” days. Indeed, it was the first month I could remember in which I’d done so. And the good days just kept on coming, till it seemed like they would never end.But then I had a “bad” day...
Have you ever had a dream that was so wonderful and so magical that you didn’t want to wake up?And then, when you did wake up, you tried to tell someone else about it, you couldn’t make the words fit what you had seen and experienced, and in fact...
A few days ago, I got an email from one of my past students, M., who went through my Seven Days To Live Your Dreams workshops last year. In the email, he wrote:Hi Phillip, I was one of the members of your first workshop program. I have a good...
The first time I sold myself out was in kindergarten.My very first day of school was kind of weird. I remember that most of the kids were crying like crazy, and I was sitting there feeling all smug and superior because I wasn’t bawling my eyes out...
The other day I ran across Eric Schaeffer’s blog, “ICantBelieveImStillSingle.com”, by way of a reference in Psychology Today. After reading a few of the articles, however, I quickly found at least one possible reason for the author’s continued...
When I’m motivated, things get done sooner, I feel better, and I even make more money. So in the past year, I’ve been making it my business (literally!) to understand as much as I can about how motivation works… especially my motivation!And over...
Last Friday night, I was getting dinner for my wife. Her store was short-handed, and she was working a 60-hour week, so I’d offered to pick something up.I called the sushi restaurant to place an order, but something funny happened when I told them...
A couple of weeks ago, I was talking with a young woman who was having some “man trouble”. She had been jokingly saying to my wife, Leslie, that she’d like for me to “train” her boyfriend, because she was so envious of how nice I am.Apparently...
